This teaches IRGen to only emit a lifetime operation (retain or release) for a C++ foreign reference type if the pointer is not `nullptr`.
Previously the compiler would in some cases emit a release call for `nullptr`, which breaks the assumption that the argument to a custom release function is `_Nonnull`. For instance:
```
var globalOptional: MyRefType? = nil
func foo() { globalOptional = MyRefType.create() }
```
When emitting IR for the assignment operation to `globalOptional`, the compiler would emit code to first retrieve the existing value of `globalOptional` and release it. If the value is `nil`, it does not need to be released.
rdar://97532642
Before this patch we tried to do lookup in the _ObjC module for the retain/release functions. Now we use the clang module that the reference type lives in.
